Temple Baptist Church - 10-30-2013
A. Most failures in marriage are “two way streets.” It is normally a combination of things that ultimately bring a marriage down and two of them are listed in this passage on the home.
1. It is difficult for a man to love an un-submissive woman. When she is not what God wants her to be, then she is not what a man needs! Ladies, learn to “feel your husband’s muscles” once in a while. Make him what he needs to be. You were made for him and to help him. Do not make your husband desire to sleep on the roof or in the wilderness!
2. It is difficult for a woman to submit to an unloving husband. If he is a dictator in the home, harsh or cruel to his wife, arrogant, and uncaring, he will be a failure as the head of the home. Jesus Christ loved the church and gave himself for it!
B. Ok, husbands, it is our turn now! The ladies had a rough week last Wednesday but they stood up honorably under the word of God.
C. When speaking to the wife, the bible speaks of submission to authority but when speaking to the husband, it says nothing about ruling over the wife. It speaks of loving her!!! To many, the “ruling” aspect of the marriage becomes the most important one. I am glad that our heavenly Father “rules” over us in love and expects us to do the same with our families.
D. The reason for this is that the wife’s submission is based in her love for the Lord and her husband while the ruling of the husband must be based the same way, in his love for his wife. If the husband loves right, he will rule right; if the husband rules in love, it becomes an easy matter for the wife to submit to his headship.
E. Without love, it easy to become bitter toward them. Without love, men become bitter about having to share their lives, time, money, etc. with their wives. We live in days of prenuptial contracts, separate bank accounts, and separate ways. Why? Selfishness! Love is giving, not taking.
F. Men, loving your wives is not about having to give up your dreams; it is about sharing those dreams with the woman that you love! Your wife is a “good thing,” not an anchor around your neck. Proverbs 18:22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
G. What is love? Love is so much more than just a feeling that one has for another. One of my favorite verses on biblical love is found in Genesis 24:67:
“And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah's tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her: and Isaac was comforted after his mother's death.” (Isaac did not know what she looked like as she was veiled; he did not know anything about her personality, her likes or dislikes as they had not talked; he determined to just love her! Love is more than a feeling; love is giving and sharing!)
H. What kind of love does the wife need?
1. It is a Limitless Love - Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
2. It is a Personal love - Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
3. It is a Private Love – it is a love not shared with others. Ecclesiastes 3:5b A time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
4. It is a Providing Love - 1 Timothy 5:8 But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
5. It is a Sharing Love - 1 Peter 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
6. It is a Sacrificial Love - Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
7. It is a Satisfying Love - Proverbs 5:18-19 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. (19) Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
8. It is an Appreciative Love - Proverbs 31:28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.